The first Tuesday of every month, I'm selecting a feminist, business, or self-help book to review for that month. And, rest assured — if I'm featuring it — there’s something you oughta know!
Last month I covered Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone by Brené Brown, which won't surprise you much, it was awesome, I mean, we're talking about The Dr. Brené Brown here. She's a force.
This month I'm covering The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success by Darren Hardy (I chose it because it's highly recommended by my friend and talented coach T-Ann, watch her video on it here!). Here's my review in 3 takeaways:
Takeaway #1 - Own your choices
2 - Choices
3 - Habits
4 - Momentum
5 - Influences
6 - Acceleration
Chapter 2 was one of my favorites, and I'll keep it in my pocket for future listening when I need a pick me up. I had a friend who talked about certain books being good "ear worms" - content that lifts you up, gets you out of your head, and in a brain space you want to be in. You Are a Badass is one of those for me and I'll be adding this chapter to my "ear worm" list.
Hardy saying things like "wake up", "stop pointing fingers", and "successful people are willing to do what unsuccessful people aren't" are very helpful reminders for me to take ownership for how I'm creating my life, what thoughts I think, what I say, and what I do.
Ultimately, I'm choosing how much time I'm spending on Instagram, whether I eat that cookie, email that total "it's a long shot" contact, and/or crawl out of my bed to meditate in the cold morning when all I want to do is hit snooze one more time, stay in my warm cozy bed and close my heavy heavy eye lids.
Hardy compares compound effects of choices to money that for every $1 you spend today will be worth $5 in 10 years and $20 in 10 years. You can view this in a negative way and a positive way. That for good choices you'll reap the benefits down the road and poor choices you won't.
Takeaway #2 - Where are you going?
Hardy quoted a story that goes something like this, "there was a man riding a horse down a path, a passerby asked him where he was going and the horse rider replied 'I don't know, ask the horse'."
It's hard to be intentional about every single aspect of our lives. But if we can take a moment to choose a couple of different habits that we can re-evaluate and decide to take action on the better we'll be.
I chose to focus on two different habits in my life, I'm going to save the full explanation for a later post but here are the two that I chose:
Starting an actual, serious meditation habit for 21 days (which I successfully did!)
Tracking my instagram use for 21 days - how long I was on it, and what I was doing. It was alarming and frankly, embarrassing. At the end I created instagram "rules" for myself - to keep me in check.
Takeaway #3 - Maybe this vibe isn't for me?
So good. But I can't give it a full 5 out of 5 because ultimately voices and energy like Darren Hardy are too... masculine, macho, dude? I found all the methods to be extremely methodical and calculated and it didn't leave a ton of room for the flow of intuition. Also, the emphasis on performance and accomplishment can be a bit overwhelming - even if it is in small increments.
Funny enough I came across this video "Too much happiness? Resisting the self-help craze in Denmark". "But as the pressure to keep striving for more happiness and success intensifies, Danish author Svend Brinkmann argues that a healthier approach might be to reject the self-help craze and learn to say 'no.'" It really resonates with quotes like, "...you're forced to develop and improve with this whole positive attitude" and "Now we think we're suppose to be happy and positive all the time, and maybe, paradoxically it makes us feel miserable."
I love self-help - but there are times I leave it feeling more like shit than motivated. I think I need to do more navigating around what voices resonate and don't.
For people who are wanting to start something new or kick a bad habit, the "choices" and "habits" chapters are great.
Next month I'm featuring We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie! Read it with me!
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